Human connection coaching supports clients in experiencing secure attachment. Through secure attachment, past wounds can begin to heal and clients can recognize that feeling of safety out in the regular world and in future relationships. In addition, human connection coaching supports clients in communicating boundaries, developing agency and a sense of empowerment in addition to discovering their needs and wants.
Esther Perel says, “The quality of your life ultimately depends on the quality of your relationships.” I believe that not only means the quality of your relationship with others but also with yourself.
How my Life Experience Shapes my Work
In my own personal experience, having someone in my life who holds me with positive regard, believes in me, wants to hear what I have to say and who looks at me with affection, has granted me a mirror in which I can see myself through their eyes, leading, ultimately, to loving myself.
In the last 5 years of this work, I’ve been able to give that experience to others. I want my clients to feel loved the way I’ve felt loved. It took me 40 years to experience that feeling. I don’t want it to take you any longer than it already has.
Something I once wrote about my work: “My clients see me for so many reasons. I describe my work as human connection coaching. It’s about human contact. It’s about co-regulation of the nervous system. It’s about just connecting and feeling human. I’m not tied to your life. We can talk and I’m not going to get my feelings hurt because I’m just here to listen. I can help find your edges. I can help find your boundaries. I can help you practice asking for what you want. No request is criticized. I may not be a yes but I’ll never shame you.“
Is Human Connection Coaching for you?
Human Connection Coaching sessions can focus on:
The list could go on and on.
Each client’s needs are evaluated individually. Here are a few initial questions to consider:
Are you looking for support that is emotionally and/or physically intimate but non sexual?
How would you like to feel after our first session?
What stops you from connecting the way you’d like to?
Are you looking for support with sexual intimacy, specifically?
Are you working with a therapist?
There are no right or wrong answers. These are all areas we would discuss when determining the best plan for you.
Where and How
I work across the Mid-Atlantic including Baltimore, Maryland; Washington, DC; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. I also see monthly clients in San Diego and across Southern California.
The next option, cuddle therapy. Cuddle therapy is non-sexual, fully clothed and client-led. And guess what? These sessions don’t even have to include cuddling or touch! We start every session with, “How would you like to connect?” This is where my work started. Cuddlist, the premier professional cuddle training organization, has been my home since their start in 2015. Clients have found these sessions to be a safe space to experiment with human connection and human contact.
Sometimes my clients need more or something different. Maybe they need to have a plan that is more customized, includes more guided exercises and/or desire we work in collaboration with their therapist. Maybe they have specific sexual intimacy needs including coaching and sexual or relationship education… areas that tend to step outside the cuddle therapy container. I’m here for that too.
What I’m not here for is your entertainment. I love working with people and supporting them in their growth. I can be a huge yes to that! I won’t be a huge yes to less.
“But Michelle, aren’t I just paying you to be my friend?” That’s a great question! I love what I do! I get paid so that I can do what I love. I am so fortunate to walk through this world, supporting myself, while supporting my clients in meeting their goals. I come with a BIG toolbox of knowledge that I want to share with you. If I wasn’t getting paid to do this work, I’d be getting paid to do something else and not available to share what I know with you, to connect with you. So thank you for valuing me.
What’s your next step? Let’s connect and see how we feel about working together!
Additional information about surrogate partner therapy can be found here.
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” – from Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Michelle Renee (she/her) introduces herself as an emotional support human. She works within a spectrum of touch and connection as a Cuddlist® Certified Practitioner and an IMBT Trained Surrogate Partner. Michelle is also a Certified facilitator of Cuddle Party®, a consent and communication workshop. A student of Betty Dodson, she occasionally facilitates female sexual empowerment and genital confidence workshops.
Michelle is not a sex therapist but she is a sex geek, experienced in kink/BDSM, polyamory and other relationship structures. Your weird isn’t weird to her. In her world, you’re normal.