“Can I be fully healed?”

Can we be fully healed? That’s a good question! First, I want to declare that we aren’t broken. We are managing with life circumstances. We can learn new tools, create a new future, and we can process old trauma. Is that “healed”? I think so.

Covid has given me some precious time to do a lot of reading (I’ll share my reading list soon in another post) and to watch videos, movies, series, etc.  While I have spent some time on guilty pleasures like Tiger King, I’ve spent a fair amount of time feeding my knowledge banks. 

Right before the shelter-at-home started, my partner introduced me to a twitch streamer named Dr K, The Healthy Gamer GG.  Dr. K is a Harvard Psychiatrist who has built a library of interviews with gamers, coaching them around mental health.  While the videos are LONG, I haven’t watched one and not learned something about myself.  

Last weekend I listened to this episode below (and I’m sharing at the point I find most interesting though I highly recommend listening to the entire episode) and when I heard this shared portion, I knew I needed to amplify Dr. K’s voice, this part specifically.  

Take a listen:

Dr K shares the 5 layers of being:

  • Physical
  • Energetic
  • Emotional
  • Intellectual
  • Spiritual

When asked if he can be healed from C-PTSD, Dr. K demonstrates the 5 layers of being and helps us understand how those different layers experience healing.  If you’ve worked through mental illness, you will probably have an ah-ha moment watching this clip.  

Can I be fully healed?  Dr K's final notes from the video, breaking down some of the diagnoses and treatments and how they correspond to the 5 layers of self.
Dr K’s final notes from the video, breaking down some of the diagnosises and treatments and how they correspond to the 5 layers of self.

“How does this play into my work?” is a question I often ask myself when I watch The Healthy Gamer.  In this episode, it became very clear that my work, inviting clients to experience secure attachment, definitely supports the spiritual layer. That the loudest connection for me. But what if we go further, looking at all 5 layers. Here’s my quick analysis:

Physical: Relaxation, Address skin hunger

Energetic: Co-Regulation

Emotional: Safe space to identify feelings, Feel emotional intimacy

Intellectual: Learning communication and boundary skills so you can create the life you want

Spiritual: Secure attachment, Experiencing safety and worth

That was 3 minutes to quickly see how we can address each layer in our work together. I could definitely explore this deeper.   

I also love that he said that strength in at least one of these areas creates resilience. <3

I invite you to share your comments below.  I’d love to hear how this video landed on you?  Had you heard of Dr. K’s work with the gamer world?  Do you know someone you could share his work with?  Personally, I’ve integrated these videos into my son’s schoolwork.  I think we could all stand to learn more about mental health.  

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Michelle (she/her), based in the Baltimore area, offers human connection coaching ranging from cuddle therapy to surrogate partner therapy (sexual surrogacy).  While Michelle is not a sex therapist, she is a sex geek, experienced in kink/BDSM, polyamory and other relationship structures.  Your weird isn’t weird to her.  In her world,  you’re normal.

Michelle (she/her), based in the Baltimore area, offers human connection coaching ranging from cuddle therapy to surrogate partner therapy (sexual surrogacy).  While Michelle is not a sex therapist, she is a sex geek, experienced in kink/BDSM, polyamory and other relationship structures.  Your weird isn’t weird to her.  In her world,  you’re normal.